Four different problems get called one word, and they have different treatments.
The types
Stress incontinence is leaking with coughing, laughing, sneezing, lifting or exercise, when pressure rises above what the urethra can hold back.
Urge incontinence is a sudden compelling need to go, with leakage before you get there. It comes from the bladder contracting when it should be filling quietly.
Overflow incontinence is constant or frequent dribbling from a bladder that cannot empty.
Mixed incontinence is stress and urge together, which is more common than either alone.
Why sorting them out matters
The treatments are different, and treating the wrong one wastes months. Working out which you have is the entire first step, and it is often clear from the history alone.
The menopause connection
After menopause, falling estrogen thins the tissue of the vagina, urethra and bladder. That contributes to urgency and frequency as well as to recurrent urinary infections. Vaginal estrogen is often part of the answer, and far too few women are ever offered it.
If leakage has arrived alongside sleep, mood or cycle changes, my free symptom check connects the dots across ten areas in about five minutes.
What helps
Pelvic floor physical therapy is one of the most effective and most underused treatments available. Bladder training and timed voiding work better than people expect. Medication helps urge incontinence. Sacral neuromodulation is an option for urgency that has not responded to other treatment.
For stress incontinence there are two main routes. A sling is the surgical option and produces the higher cure rate on average. Bulkamid is a minimally invasive procedure that involves injecting a soft hydrogel into the wall of the urethra through a small scope, adding bulk so the urethra closes properly. It is a short outpatient procedure, I typically do it under a brief general anesthetic, and most women are back to normal in a day or two.
It matters because it contains no mesh and involves no incision. A lot of women have understandably ruled out surgery after everything they have read about mesh, and then assume nothing else is available. Something else is available. Bulkamid can also be repeated if the effect fades, and choosing it does not rule out a sling later.
Absorbent products manage the problem rather than fix it, which is worth saying out loud, because a great many people use them for years without ever being evaluated for something treatable.